I reminisce about Christmas days, ranging from childhood to last year. They range from Jesus only to Santa Claus everything. They range from getting everything I wanted to getting absolutely nothing, from going into debt to not spending a dime, eating dinner with 50/60 friends and family members to spending it alone. They range from spending Christmas time in my hometowns of Portsmouth, VA and Havelock, NC to Okinawa, Japan, from taking a few weeks off to working on Christmas day. From my wide range of experiences to everything in between, I so enjoy this time of year because of the positive energy and good vibes. Is it that I am just more aware and sensitive or is this time of year really most wonderful? I don’t know. Should I care? I do.
I took time this year to listen, to intentionally hear and observe for a moment or two. I wanted to see what makes this time of year different; quite wonderful and absolute bliss for some. It’s not so wonderful for others. Not to figure out the why’s but just to observe… Is it Christmas that’s wonderful?
This time of year, it’s common to hear people asking one another, “What are YOU doing FOR Christmas?” I hear people saying, “Jesus is the reason for the season”, “It’s not about Santa Claus and the commercialism” and “I am not getting caught up or going into debt.” I hear people saying, “Happy Holidays!” & “Merry Christmas!”, with vigor. I also have been paying attention to some of the lyrics and titles of the more popular Christmas carols. My favorite is Anita Baker’s rendition of “Christmastime is Here”. I also like, “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year”, “…and this Christmas will be a very special Christmas for me heee”, “Oh holy night…fall on your knees, oh hear the angels’ voices..”, “…oh what fun it is to ride on a one horse open sleigh…”, “…I simply remember my favorite things and THEN I don’t feel so bad…”, and “…all is calm, all is bright…” Do you know these songs or have your favorites?
I thought about those lyrics as statements, no judgment, just thoughts. I’ve got the DirectTV music channel set to “Songs of the Seasons” and it’s playing as I type. I have never heard so many spins on Christmas carols, ranging from jazz to country and Kid’s Bop. It’s just festive and light.
I was at the mall the other day and it was busy but not crazy. Sales people were being so helpful. They offered coupons, discounts, special orders (overnight!) and I even had a one sales person to offer to get something from the back for me. I didn’t think stores had a “back” anymore. Well! (I had to look into the imaginary camera, like “whaaat, for me!?”) I have seen in the past few weeks people share hugs more often, laugh and smile a whole lot more. Buying gifts for people they don’t like and spending money they don’t have on those people. A sacrifice? Is that love? Sounds like it could be love to me; even if it is a reluctant choice. Maybe when we give, we’re most like God. Maybe.
I hear and see, even the more, how what people speak and even set to music manifests. What happens when you say “merry”? Merry means to be full of high-spirited gaiety; jolly. Say it enough and it happens. It is! We are! As for those song titles and lyrics, we sing them straight into belief and BAM!, they become evident, too. To some, it is the most wonderful time of the year. What if we said, “Merry Day” or “Happy Day” every day? What if we spoke, sang songs and made music that would make every day “The Most Wonderful Time of the Year”? What do you think? What efforts would you make? You don’t have to answer me, but answer you if you like and just think about it without judgment.
Whether it’s Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa or just a time for family and giving in December; what if we speak it merry and just decide to BE happy(iness) 24/7. Then the question may not be so much, “What are you doing for Christmas?” but “Who are you BEing (every day)?” What are you being? Create environments of (heavenly) peace. Do unto others…maybe not what you want, but as they need. Ask them. You can test your relationship, personal and professional by asking people what THEY want and need, to see if you’re willing. Doing, alone, can be rather dutiful, but when you know who you are, BEING feels natural and the doing comes easy.
Decide to have the most wonderful time all of the time and BE the most wonderful, better yet BE a wonder. Do you know how? Who “the wonder” is you are you here to be? What wonderful things you are here to do? How wonderful and well do you do it? Has that changed? How can you upgrade? When is the last time you conducted an inner-view to assess how wonderful you are, now? Who gets access to experience you that way? Who is the listening hear that helps you figure it all out? It would be heartbreaking, self-destructive, negatively affecting every area in your life not to know, be and do the answers to those questions. Because when you know who you are here to be, what you are here to do and you do it with passion, you are the most wonderful any time of the year!
Do you know? I see you. I hear you. You are relevant. You have a purpose and I’m here to help.
Peace and blessings,